Just When You Thought You've Heard Everything!

Ok, I'm kind of old. I've seen and heard a lot of things during the course of my lifetime but this one really does take the cake. LOL!

Have you ever heard of something called POLYAMORY? Huh? Well, I hadn't either but I was watching TV the other day and they were talking about it. Of course, I sat up and took notice.

Ok, here it is from the Urban Dictionary: The practice, state or ability of having more than one sexual loving relationship at the same time, with the full knowledge and consent of all partners involved.

This is the definition used by California polyamorist Morning Glory Zell, who coined the term in the early 1980's. Polyamory differs from adultery because all the partners know about each others' lovers, so there is not secrecy or betrayal.

Ok, what?? First of all, I knew someone who was in this lifestyle & I just thought of them as swingers or to put it mildly, people of loose morals and scruples. Cough, cough, slut. Shhh. You know what I mean. I've always believed that marriage was between one man and one woman as the Bible says. What do you mean it's not adultery if your partner knows about the other ones?? Why bother to get married if you want to have multiple sex partners?

Believe it or not, these are mostly women that do this. In one of the stories I saw two men lived with her and she had a child with one of them. Am I the only one that thinks this is really weird? Anyway, I thought this might be a great way to open up a discussion about this.

Because we didn't know what this type of lifestyle was termed, we would get very confused because we would see this person, who was married, in public, cuddling, hugging and kissing other men. Sometimes they would go on excursions with us, with full knowledge of the husband. I was stunned.

According to this television show I watched, I think it was called "Strange Sex" but I'm not sure, these people think it's totally natural to have multiple partners and it's not about the sex, they actually love & are committed to these relationships. That just makes me tired.

Here's another definition:

Polyamorous Means "Many Loves". It means having multiple commited relationships with people you are mutally in love with, and everyone wants it to be that way.

This is not to be confused with swinging or multiple relationships, where you are sleeping with the other people or they are friends with bennies, whom you love. That is called non-monogamy, and to say it is polyamory is a lie.

"I told Brad I'm in love with him, and my husband Rick is very happy for us."
"That's cheating!"
"No, we're polyamorous. You can only cheat on rules that exist. We don't have an agreement to be exclusive. But an example of me cheating would be to not tell Rick that I'm in love, because the rule of honesty is right up there with the rule that the primary relationship comes first"
"I could never do that. I'm too jealous"
"Then don't."
"Are you sleeping with both these guys?"
"Now that I'm in love with both of them, yes. But you don't have to be having sex to be polyamorous, because what it means is that you are mutually in love with more than one person at a time. Most people do sleep with those they love, but sex is not what makes you poly"

I'm really cracking up here. What do you think? Let me know. I think it's hysterical!