Hey, Ya'll!
know it's been awhile but there has really been a lot going on in my life the last few weeks. It actually took quite a while for me to come up with a title for this blog. Plus, there are so many different topics that I need to cover that I may have to split it up into more postings.
We all know people who are missing something in their lives. Whatever it is – love, security, self-esteem, whatever – they try to fill that void in some pretty amazing (read that “sad”) ways. We have all read about people who are promiscuous as a way to feel better about their lives. If you know anyone like that, you know what they say…”if you can’t say anything nice, come sit next to me!” Seriously.
Then there are people who attempt to fill their nonexistent lives by having bigger houses, more expensive cars, the latest fashions. I have yet to figure that one out, given that you can lose all those things in one natural disaster or huge financial downturn. Not to mention that someone else will always have bigger, flashier, more expensive, and unfortunately none of those things necessarily means taste or class. Quite the contrary.
But what really amazes me are people who have absolutely no life whatsoever so they have to try to create one. Here I’m thinking of stepparents who did NOT bear any of the responsibility, expense, heartbreak or joy of raising their stepchildren and yet feel free to claim credit for the good in those children, and have the gall to claim them as their own! (If you feel guilty reading this, yes, I MAY be talking about you. Or it may be your conscience calling.)
Oh, it goes deeper, Dear Reader. People who have no lives of their own who hold on to family members who AREN’T part of their lives anymore are so desperately sad. Do they not have their own families, their own weddings, births, funerals, etc. to attend?
Is it possible, I wonder, if people who do these things are sadder than those who gamble, spend, or fornicate to try to fill the void? If someone has to try constantly to make someone else unhappy to make themselves feel better, which one is the better person? And do they really think this is going to make their life better? What would happen to someone like that if the people they try to emulate and emotionally sabotage weren’t around for them anymore? Would the scrap of life they’ve built on wind collapse? Oh, you know it would!
The temptation is to feel sorry for people like that. I know I used to, but not anymore. They certainly feel no remorse regarding the people they hurt. Now I just find them pathetic.
So, here’s a little “How To” advice for anyone who is lacking in a real life, whether they want to admit it or not. Get off the Internet (and especially off social media) where you will be constantly tempted to create a virtual reality in which you actually have the things you lack in reality. Stay off because 1) you’re not fooling anybody but yourself, and and eventually you won’t be able to maintain the lies, and 2) it will never take the place of a real life. Do something for yourself that is real, personal and creative. Take a writing class and start working on the great American novel. Take art classes, or learn some new skill. DEVELOP an interest and you will develop more dimensions in your own life. You will have something real, personal, and creative to brag about, instead of siphoning off happiness from people who are really living. You will also feel better about yourself.
Well, folks, that’s my words of hard-won wisdom for the day. Thanks for listening. Love you!
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